This was going to be an entry telling about my cookbooks and how I learned to cook, but I realized that before I do that, I need to give some background information.
After graduating in 1962, I went to work at a mail order catalog company, National Bellas Hess.
It was sort of a poor man's Sears and Roebuck. I didn't drive, but my brother-in-law worked in the same vicinity, so I rode with him and he dropped me off at work.
I hadn't had the job long when the company my dad worked for, Alton Paper Box, decided to relocate from North Kansas City to Blue Springs, Missouri, which was a little podunk town east of Kansas City; my parents put their home in Kansas City, North, up for sale and purchased a house outside Blue Springs. No way would I be able to get to work from there; Interstate 70 hadn't even been put in yet and besides, there was no city bus service there.
I was going to have to find a place to live near a bus stop. I remembered my aunt had stayed at an upstairs apartment for awhile until her husband got their farm sold, and I asked my parents about that. Mother knew the people and set me up. I was going to live alone at 2638 East 11th Street!
I bought what little furniture I needed that my parents couldn't supply, and I was on my own.
As someone who didn't drive, suddenly the world opened up to me; I could hop on the bus and go anywhere! I went to the Kansas City library. I went to see Peter, Paul, and Mary in concert. I went to an occasional movie. Of course, I had to watch my pennies, since I was making minimum wage, which was at that time $1.15 an hour.
Later on I moved to an apartment just down the street from National Bellas Hess where I could walk to work, but I still went wherever I wanted to (and could afford) on the bus.
I lived on my own for three-and-a-half years.
Cliff's youngest sister and I agree that everyone would do well to live alone, just to know what it's like and to see that it can be done.
Oh, I sometimes felt lonely; I really wanted my prince to come along, so I could have the dozen babies I planned on having. (Boy, was I nuts, or what?) But for the most part, my life was good and I was content. I read a lot; I had a little black-and-white television. Until the very last few months of my living alone, I had absolutely no social life; I worked and went home. On payday evening, I'd walk to Krogers, several blocks away, and buy what I needed to eat; it was never more than I could carry home. I spent most weekends with my parents in Blue Springs.
I've tried to tell you folks before, I am a peculiar person. Always have been, always will be.
I'll get to that cookbook entry after while.
I never lived by myself until all my children left home and what a shock it was for me. Talk about lonely...that was an understatement. I think you are right that it is a good experience. It sure does make one thankful for other folk around.
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to hear about the cooking. Have a great Thursday!
You're not peculiar. I take that stint of time in your life as being someone who enjoys learning and life, who likes herself, and who can be her own best friend.
ReplyDeleteI want to hear about more than the cooking! What'd you do at the catalog company . . . when and how did you meet your prince?
ReplyDeletewhat a terrific entry.
ReplyDeletewhat strikes me most is how much we all have changed. Our cities, towns, transportation and all our expectations of all these things.
Think about it. If a company was going to move now, it likely wouldn't be so much from NKC to Blue Springs--what would be the point, after all?--but much more like either across the state line or out of town.
So many things have changed so much.
wow.
thanks for the insights.
I lived alone about a month after my husband died but only for a month while my mother was in the hospital (she lived with us) and I have lived alone since she died 3 years ago. I am just now getting used to it and comfortable with it.
ReplyDeleteI agree everyone needs to live alone at least once to learn how to be responsible for onesself. My time came when my husband died and it lasted eight years.
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