Saturday, January 16, 2010

Missing persons

I've had this happen several times in the past few years.
I'll find a blog I really enjoy. The author seems upbeat and funny. Or perhaps interesting and intelligent, and from such a totally different background than mine that I'm fascinated.
Suddenly, that person quits blogging.
Now, if she still comments on your blog from time to time, you don't worry too much.
If she doesn't, you think back to some possibly troubled times you had noticed, reading between the lines they had put on the Internet.
Are there problems in paradise?
Or maybe she's had some awful loss, and it's shut her down completely?
Perhaps he got in trouble for blogging about his job?
There are so many things that could go wrong.
You know what really bothers me? They didn't say goodbye. Why didn't they tell us, "I have a problem; I can't blog right now."
That's what the Faux Cowboy did, and it made everything OK.
It's fine if you're bored with putting yourself out there in public, or if you have personal problems that have you so depressed that you don't care if you ever blog again.
Just tell us goodbye, won't you?


Diane@Diane's Place said...

I agree wholeheartedly, Donna. It's the ones that post nearly every day on their blog then just delete their blogs or quit posting without explanation that bother me. I've had that happen many times over the last 5 years since I started blogging and it's unsettling.

It's the not know what happened and the lack of closure, I guess. Kind of like reading a book and getting to the last 10 pages and finding the ending is missing. We humans just crave continuity and all our ducks in a row, I'm thinking.

Don't worry, if for some reason I stop blogging I'll make sure everyone knows why, and I've made sure Jessica has all my log-in information for my blog so she can post an explanation if I get sick or God forbid, die suddenly.

Donna said...

Diane, my daughter has access to my blog also. I knew you'd be the type to not keep your readers in suspense. Your daughter has been great at explaining what's going on her life, too. Bless her heart, I know that wasn't easy.
But at least we know.

Paula said...

I agree it leaves an empty feeling as if they didn't care as much as you thought they did. I'm not saying it isn't okay to quit blogging if thats your desire. Just---well you just said it, you know what I mean and I know what you mean.

Midlife Mom said...

I've had that happen numerous times and still wonder what happened to the people and why they stopped blogging. Sometimes if they have just left their blog up I leave a little message every so often and once in a while they will respond.

Kelly said...

I think with Facebook, blogging has become a more time consuming process. It takes some time and thought to write, but to just put a sentence out there real quick on Facebook, well thats easy.

I am sporadic in my blogging right now because I just don't feel the words coming to me to make things interesting.

YOU always have interesting reading Donna. I will always come here. There are others I stop in and read with my coffee, but you, well, you were MY original blogger. :)

I hope you never stop blogging.

Lori said...

I agree. If at all possible, it's much nicer to have someone say goodbye, even if they can't tell you why.

Terri said...

I totally agree!!!